What is ghosting and how common is it in situationships?

How to declutter your life? Start with what feels overwhelming. Remove what drains you or no longer serves you, whether that's physical clutter, negative relationships, or emotional baggage. Create space for peace, purpose, and new possibilities.

Let’s dig deeper into what decluttering truly means. It’s more than just cleaning your room or getting rid of old clothes (although that’s a great place to start). Decluttering is a conscious process of evaluating every aspect of your life and making intentional choices about what stays and what goes. The mess in your physical space often mirrors the mental clutter you might feel, especially when you’re caught up in the uncertainties and emotional rollercoaster of a situationship.

Begin by taking inventory. What are the areas of your daily routine or your emotional world that constantly leave you feeling drained, anxious, or distracted? Is it that overflowing closet? The never-ending social media notifications? Or is it unresolved feelings and ambiguous connections with people who don’t bring clarity or kindness to your life? Write these stressors down. Seeing them on paper makes them real and actionable, instead of just thoughts swirling in your mind.

Now, tackle them one by one. For your environment, the rule is simple: if you haven’t used it in the past six months and it doesn’t make you feel good, let it go. Donate, recycle, or toss it out. The same approach applies to your digital life. Unfollow accounts that spark comparison or negativity, and say goodbye to apps that eat up your time without adding value.

When it comes to relationships and emotions, things can feel trickier—especially if you’re caught in a situationship, where intentions are murky and there’s no clear path forward. Ask yourself: does this connection add more stress than joy? Do you feel secure or constantly anxious about where you stand? If the relationship feels like emotional clutter, it might be time to set boundaries or let go, even if that feels uncomfortable at first. Trust that you deserve relationships that are as nourishing as they are exciting.

Decluttering also means making more conscious choices about where your time and energy go. Create routines that ground and inspire you, like a morning walk or evening journaling. Learn to say no to invitations or obligations you don’t actually enjoy. Protect your time and mind as fiercely as you would your most valued possessions.

Remember, decluttering is not a one-time project, but an ongoing practice. Life will always present new messes—both literal and emotional. The goal is to become someone who notices when things start piling up, and knows how to address them before chaos takes over.

If you ever feel stuck, you don’t have to figure things out alone. For young women navigating the complicated world of situationships, notBf is an AI companion designed to provide hyper-personalised support and help you gain clarity. It’s a safe space to vent, get advice, and make empowered choices—so you can declutter your dating life and create more room for genuine connection.