How do I cope with jealousy in a situationship?

Start with the basics: decluttering your life is about removing what’s weighing you down, getting clear about your priorities, and making room for things that help you grow. It isn’t just about cleaning your space or deleting messages from your phone. It’s about clearing emotional, mental, digital, and even social clutter so you can breathe and move through your situationship—and life—in a healthier way.

As someone navigating a situationship, your life can quickly feel overcrowded. There are “what-are-we” questions swirling around, feelings that might not be fully spoken, and sometimes a constant buzz of anxiety that makes everything seem messier. Decluttering starts with noticing what’s genuinely serving you and what’s not. Begin with your environment: tidy your room and your digital world. Even something as simple as unfollowing accounts that make you feel inadequate or muting confusing chats can restore peace. Remember: physical clutter often mirrors what’s piling up in our hearts and minds.

Then turn that same energy inward. What habits, thoughts, or patterns are keeping you stuck? Maybe you replay conversations with your almost-partner over and over, or you’re obsessed with what their social media activity *might* mean. Ask yourself: is this way of thinking helping me, or is it blocking my happiness? Write down what’s stressing you, and look at it with compassionate honesty. Sometimes it takes actually seeing your worries on paper to recognise, “I don’t have to carry all this.”

Next, clear out social clutter. You don’t have to cut everyone off, but pay attention to who genuinely listens and respects you. If certain friendships only add drama or trigger jealousy in your situationship, consider limiting your interaction for now. Choose to spend more time with people that make you feel seen, respected, and loved. Saying “no” might be uncomfortable, but it’s a powerful tool when you’re trying to create a healthier dating experience.

Strengthen your boundaries in your situationship. Don’t leave your happiness in someone else’s hands. If the situationship starts feeling messy or “too much,” it’s perfectly fine to take a step back and recalibrate. Set clear expectations for yourself: what are your non-negotiables? What behaviours do you refuse to tolerate? Decluttering is as much about what you allow in as what you remove.

Lastly, remember that decluttering is an ongoing process, not a one-time weekend purge. Feelings will ebb and flow, situationship dynamics may shift, and sometimes old habits sneak back in. Be gentle with yourself, and return to these steps whenever you start to feel the overwhelm building up again.

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