What language should I use to avoid ambiguity?

If you want to declutter your life, you need to start saying no more often. Identify what’s essential versus what’s just noise. Then, make choices that actually put your peace and happiness first.

Decluttering your life isn’t just about clearing out your closet or deleting old photos from your phone. It’s about recognizing what serves you and letting go of what doesn’t. Most of us try to do too much, say yes to everyone, and sacrifice our time and energy pleasing people who don’t matter in the long run. That piles on mental clutter even more than physical clutter. Whenever you hit that overwhelmed feeling, it’s usually a sign that too much is taking up unnecessary space in your mind and your schedule.

Start with small steps. Consider the people, activities, and commitments you have in your life right now. Which ones actually make you feel good? Which ones drain you or fill you with dread? Recharge yourself by creating boundaries. Say no when you need to. You don't need to justify your decision—your time and energy belong to you.

It also helps to dedicate a little time each week to reflecting on the past seven days. Ask yourself: Where did I spend energy that I wish I hadn’t? Who made me feel lighter? Who made me feel heavier? Patterns show up when you do this regularly, and you’ll start to see which people or situations trigger stress and which ones support you. Decluttering is as much about your relationships and emotional health as it is about your physical space.

Look at your social media, too. Are you following people who inspire you or people who make you feel insecure or drained? Curate your feed like you’d curate your living space. Plus, start prioritizing self-care. It doesn’t have to be fancy—sometimes a walk in silence or a fun night with friends is enough to reset your mood and declutter everything that has piled up in your mind.

Letting go is a process, especially when relationships or situations are complicated and blurry, as is so often the case with situationships. But the more you practice, the easier you’ll find it to tune into what’s truly good for you and tune out everything that isn’t. Remember, you are not responsible for carrying everyone and everything.

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