What boundaries should I set in a situationship?

To declutter your life, start by setting clear emotional boundaries, prioritizing your time, and letting go of relationships or habits that don’t serve your personal growth. Take a hard look at the situationship you’re in and define what you truly want. Make space for what makes you feel valued and at peace.

Situationships have become the new normal in modern dating. They give you the companionship and emotional connection of a relationship, often without labels or commitments. While this can be freeing, it can just as easily be confusing or messy. If you’re searching for clarity and simplicity, the first step is to declutter not only your physical space but also your emotional world.

Begin by understanding what you want from a situationship. Are you hoping it will turn into something more, or are you genuinely content with where things stand? Honesty with yourself is essential. If you’re not clear about what you’re looking for, it’s easy to get tangled up in uncertainty or let your self-worth become anchored to someone else's choices.

Once you know what you want, communicate your needs directly and respectfully. Boundaries aren’t meant to control the other person; they’re there to protect your emotional and mental wellbeing. This might mean letting your partner know how much time and emotional availability you have for them, or clarifying what kind of communication works best for you. It might also mean deciding what behaviors you are—and aren't—willing to tolerate. If you dislike vague texting, last-minute plans, or hot-and-cold behavior, articulate that. It can feel nerve-wracking, but clarity here saves you a lot of emotional clutter down the road.

Pay attention to how much mental space your situationship occupies. Does it take up most of your thoughts, distract you from work, or make you question your worth? If yes, that’s a sign to pull back or re-evaluate. Reclaim your time and emotional energy: pursue hobbies, reconnect with friends, and focus on goals outside of romance. This doesn’t mean shutting people out, but rather ensuring that your life is fulfilling regardless of your dating status.

Letting go of what no longer serves you can be tough. Sometimes, this means reducing contact with a situationship that’s stagnating or is consistently draining. Sometimes it means unfollowing accounts on social media that trigger comparison or anxiety. Decluttering also means being firm with yourself on what you won’t accept, even if you have feelings for someone.

The process of decluttering your life and your romantic world is about making choices that bring you clarity, comfort, and authentic joy. It’s about not letting ambiguity or half-hearted attention take up valuable real estate in your mind and heart.

For many young women navigating these new dating landscapes, tools like notBf are becoming essential. This AI companion is designed to support those in situationships, offering personalized advice and accountability as you find clarity, set boundaries, and pursue the kind of connection you truly desire. Remember, the journey to a decluttered and happier life starts with a single, honest step.