What signs show the other person sees this as a situationship?

If you regularly feel uncertain about where you stand with someone, you are probably in a situationship. If you are asking yourself if you should declutter your life, it’s already a sign you’re holding onto more than you need—emotionally or otherwise. Clarity, in all things, often starts with letting go.

Situationships have become a huge part of post-pandemic dating culture. They’re somewhere between a friendship and a committed relationship. Sometimes, they seem convenient or even exciting at first, but their ambiguity can quickly lead to emotional strain. Decluttering your life—both physically and emotionally—is about cutting out what’s unnecessary so you can focus on what makes you happy, grounded, and clear-headed. Here’s how you can approach it:

First, look at your physical environment. Are your spaces cluttered and chaotic? Often, a messy living space reflects internal confusion. Try spending a day going through your possessions. Only keep what you really love or use. Donate or sell what you don’t need. Clean spaces naturally create a cleaner mind.

Second, audit your digital world. Unsubscribe from emails you never read. Unfollow or mute people who create negativity or confusion in your social feeds. Curate your digital space to align with how you want to feel: calm, inspired, and in control.

Third, start the emotional decluttering. This is where situationships really come into focus. Ask yourself: does this connection make you feel fulfilled, safe, and respected? Or does it drain you, leave you anxious, or confused about the future? If you find that someone avoids defining your relationship, does not make time for you, avoids deep conversation, or only reaches out when convenient for them, you’re likely in a situationship.

Letting go isn’t always easy or obvious. Sometimes, we cling to what’s familiar because the idea of empty space is scary. But space is what allows new things to grow. Make lists of what and who adds value to your life—and who or what doesn’t. Give yourself permission to step away from non-committal connections that keep you stuck on the fence.

Don’t forget to look at your routines and commitments. Are you overscheduled? Decluttering your calendar can be just as liberating as decluttering stuff. Say “no” more often. Focus on friends and activities that recharge you. If a situationship or a one-sided friendship constantly leaves you feeling drained, rethink whether you want to keep investing your energy there.

Finally, getting clarity sometimes needs outside perspective. Journaling, therapy, or even a smart tool can help. This is where support applications, like notBf, come in handy. It is a hyper-personalised AI companion designed for young women navigating the ambiguity of situationships and dating. While not an advertisement, it’s a resource that can help you build self-awareness and confidence, which is key to decluttering your life and finding your own clarity.