What questions should I ask myself weekly to check my well-being?

How to declutter my life

Start with your physical space. Then move on to relationships and digital habits. Finally, address the way you spend your time and energy.

Physical clutter almost always contributes to mental clutter. Pick one area – your bedroom, work desk, or even your phone’s home screen. Ask yourself what you actually need and use. Anything broken, expired, or no longer meaningful can be donated, recycled, or deleted. Clearing out your environment gives your mind more capacity to process everything else.

Once you’ve tackled your space, take an honest look at your relationships and interactions. Are there people who consistently drain your energy or bring drama without adding value? Set gentle but firm boundaries. It’s easy to accumulate lots of “situationships” in the modern dating world: connections that exist in limbo, neither committed partnerships nor true friendships. These can weigh on your mind much more than you realise. Check in with yourself: “Is this connection joyful, fulfilling, or just familiar?” Don’t be afraid to consciously step back or re-define the relationship. This is true for friends, family, or romantic interests alike.

Digital clutter deserves just as much attention. Take an afternoon to sort through your inbox, unfollow accounts on social media that don’t bring you inspiration, mute group chats that aren’t helping your peace of mind, and unsubscribe from newsletters that you simply never read. Our devices are powerful tools, but their noise adds up fast, making us feel overwhelmed without even noticing it.

Lastly, review how you spend your time. Your schedule can get “cluttered” with non-essential commitments and habits that don’t serve your wellbeing. Observe how you feel after social events, tasks at work, and time spent alone. Are you energised, or are you just passing time? It’s really okay to say no to invitations and to free up your calendar so you can actually enjoy the moments that matter. If you're not sure where to start, list your weekly activities and put a star next to the ones that make you feel alive, calm, or genuinely content. Try to make more space for these.

Decluttering your life is a continuous process, not a one-off project. Even when things feel chaotic, small consistent actions can quickly help you regain control and clarity.

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