What are boundary examples for friends and exes while in a situationship?

How do you declutter your life while in a situationship? First, get brutally honest about what’s working and what’s weighing you down. Next, set boundaries that protect your emotional well-being. Finally, consciously choose who and what you’re giving your attention to.

So often, people slip into situationships—a relationship that’s undefined, somewhere between friends and partners—without much intention. Suddenly, your life feels overwhelmed with doubts, mixed signals, and tangled connections with friends, exes, and maybe even others in your romantic orbit. To declutter, you need to rethink how you relate to everyone, especially those with emotional influence over you.

Start by clarifying what you want out of your situationship. Are you genuinely open to seeing where things go, or are you hoping for commitment? If you’re not clear, the ambiguity will sap your energy and leave you anxious. Give yourself permission to take a step back and reflect. Do your feelings align with your actions?

When boundaries blur, things get messy. This is particularly important with friends and exes, who often drift in and out of your romantic life. For friends, make sure you maintain enough space so they respect your choices and support you without adding drama or confusion. For example, if you find friends prying too much into your situationship or offering unsolicited advice, tell them you’d rather talk about it only when you bring it up. Let them know you value their support but need space to figure things out at your own pace.

With exes, boundaries should be even firmer. If you’re in a situationship, it can be tempting to fall back into old patterns or lean on your ex for comfort or advice. This complicates things, often making it harder for you to move on or see your current relationship clearly. Be direct about what your ex’s role is in your life now. For some, that means unfollowing on social media or no longer texting, especially if those interactions stir up old feelings or add confusion.

Regularly audit your digital spaces too. Are you following people who trigger insecurities or doubts? Is your situationship clogging up your mind because you’re constantly checking their updates or worrying about their online behavior? Take a break from the digital noise. Curate your social feeds to foster genuine peace and self-respect.

Remember, decluttering isn’t just subtracting negativity; it’s about setting up your life so there’s room for positive experiences, peace, and clarity. Prioritize your mental health, fill your calendar with things and people who energize you, and bravely create distance from those who drain you.

And if you crave more clarity or a personalized approach, tools like notBf exist for women just like you navigating these modern dating challenges. It’s an AI companion designed specifically for situationships, giving you hyper-personalized support and practical wisdom—so you don’t have to do all the decluttering alone. Here’s to a clearer, lighter, and more empowered dating life.