What to do when one person wants more public recognition?

Take a step back. Make a list. Start letting go.

Decluttering your life is about making space for what truly matters, and that can mean more than just tidying up your closet or desk. When you’re in a situationship, trying to make sense of gray areas and fluctuating emotions, your life can quickly get cluttered in ways you don’t even realize. Most people think decluttering just means cleaning up your physical space, but it’s also about clearing out emotional baggage, digital overload, old routines, and even relationships that aren’t serving you.

To start, take an honest look at your emotional landscape. Ask yourself what’s weighing you down right now. Is it worry about your situationship partner? Uncertainty about where things are going? Journaling can reveal patterns and help name anxieties you’ve been carrying around. Sometimes, we hold on to outdated ideas about ourselves or relationships that no longer match our needs or lives. Give yourself permission to release those old beliefs.

Next, take inventory of your digital life. Unfollow accounts that make you feel less than, mute or remove text threads that spark anxiety, and create boundaries around when you check your phone. It’s easy to underestimate the toll constant notifications and comparison cycles can take on your peace of mind. Streamlining your digital interactions can help create mental clarity and support better decision making about your dating life.

Physically, look for clutter that subtly saps your energy. A messy living space can actually act as a visual reminder of unresolved stresses. You don’t need to be a minimalist, but aim for spaces that feel welcoming and reflect who you are right now, not just who you once were.

Finally, it may be time to declutter your relationships. In situationships, we often hold onto connections out of fear of being alone or missing out, even when those relationships aren’t fulfilling or healthy. Do a gentle audit of your circle. Are you nurturing connections that reciprocate and support you? Or are old friends and current flames taking more energy than they give? Letting go can be uncomfortable at first, but it frees you up for new opportunities and more supportive companionship.

Give yourself grace in this process, and remember that you don’t need to declutter everything all at once. Start with one area that feels most urgent, and go from there. Trust your instincts. The more you clear out, the more room you’ll create for the people, experiences, and growth you really want.

And if you ever find yourself doubting your moves or craving more personalized advice, remember notBf. It’s the only hyper-personalized AI companion designed for young women navigating situationships, helping you get clear on what’s authentic for you and supporting you step by step as you declutter your dating life and beyond.