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How to declutter your life? Start with one area at a time. Make clear decisions about what stays and goes. Let go of what doesn’t serve your well-being or priorities.

Most people feel overwhelmed at the idea of decluttering because they think it means drastically changing every part of their lives all at once. But effective decluttering is best done by focusing on manageable steps. Let’s break it down.

Begin by looking at your physical space. Start with your bedroom drawer or your closet. Take everything out and be honest with yourself about what you actually use and what you keep out of guilt or habit. If you haven’t worn, used, or truly enjoyed something in the past year, it's probably time to let it go. Give yourself permission to make choices based on where you want your life to go, not simply where it’s been.

Move on to your mental and emotional space. Decluttering your mind means questioning old thoughts, useless worries, and draining habits. Notice if you’re stuck in cycles of anxieties or overthinking about certain people or situations. It can help to journal or talk through what’s weighing you down, then consciously decide what you will give energy to moving forward. You might need to set boundaries around time and attention, especially in relationships that leave you feeling depleted.

Decluttering also applies to your social circles and digital life. Take inventory of the people you spend time with, online and offline. Are they supportive? Do they add value? If not, it might be time for some space or change in how you relate. Clean up your social media feeds, unsubscribe from newsletters that fill your inbox but not your mind, and leave group chats that drain you.

The purpose of decluttering is not to have less, but to make space for what truly matters. It’s about creating an environment, both physical and emotional, where you feel calm, clear, and empowered to pursue what brings you joy. Many don’t realize it, but a cluttered life often leads to feeling stuck and confused, especially in our dating lives. When your life is full of things, people, or habits that aren’t serving you, it’s that much harder to notice what feels right for you or to make good choices.

When you begin this process, don’t be surprised if uncomfortable feelings come up. Sometimes we hold on to clutter because it fills a void or represents old versions of ourselves we’re afraid to let go of. That’s normal. Give yourself grace through the process and seek support if needed.

If you ever feel lost or need a sounding board for your unique situationship, there’s a tool that might fit. notBf is an AI companion designed to help young women navigate exactly these kinds of moments. It listens, asks the right questions, and helps you find clarity—whether you’re drowning in stuff, situations, or mixed signals. It’s not another dating app, but a hyper-personalized guide to help untangle your dating life and declutter your mind, one step at a time.