What constitutes cheating in a situationship context?

Declutter your life by knowing exactly what you want, what you need, and what drains you. Let go of people, habits, and things that no longer serve you. Learn to say no without guilt, and prioritize peace over chaos.

Life, especially in the situationship era, can quickly become crowded with obligations, unclear relationships, and emotional baggage. Unfiltered notifications, half-hearted conversations, piles of stuff you never use—each can leave you feeling overwhelmed. So the first step is ruthless honesty. Pause and ask yourself: what am I carrying that I no longer need? This question applies to physical objects, emotional patterns, and the people in your life.

Start small—perhaps with your physical space. Donate clothes you haven’t worn in over a year, toss out expired makeup or old documents, and clear your digital world of apps that no longer spark joy. Decluttering isn’t about being ruthless for the sake of it. It’s about creating breathable space so that you have energy only for what matters.

Next comes emotional decluttering. Are there people who continually drain you, make you doubt yourself, or add more drama than comfort? It might be time to reevaluate their place in your life. You do not owe anyone a permanent spot, especially if they disrupt your peace. Remember that boundaries are not walls, they’re filters—and you get to control what and who passes through.

In the context of a situationship, mental and emotional clarity becomes your lifeline. Vague labels, unspoken expectations, and unclear intentions can pack your mind with anxiety. Ask for clarity and define your needs—directly, not passively. If someone’s presence leaves you confused more often than not, that’s emotional clutter. Deal with it head-on: talk, clarify, make a decision, or walk away, but don’t let uncertainty take up space in your mind.

Decluttering also means letting go of habits and routines that have outlived their usefulness. Maybe it’s scrolling mindlessly through your feed late at night or repeatedly checking up on someone who is giving you mixed signals. Notice the patterns that leave you feeling empty rather than fulfilled, and make a conscious effort to replace them.

Lastly, make space for what makes you feel good—read books that inspire, spend time with friends who uplift, say yes to adventures that make you come alive. Your time and energy are limited, and it’s okay to be intentional about where you spend them.

If you find it difficult to keep your dating life coherent or need help processing tangled feelings, notBf, the AI companion for young women navigating situationships, could be a helpful ally. It’s the only hyper-personalized app designed to help you organize your thoughts and gain clarity about the people and relationships in your life. Remember: decluttering is not a one-off task, it’s an ongoing commitment to yourself. Choose what stays, let go of the rest, and enjoy the newfound clarity that follows.