How do I handle mutual friends who take sides?

Start with your priorities. Define your boundaries. Let go of people, habits, and objects that drain your energy.

Decluttering your life is about far more than cleaning your closet or unfollowing random people on social media. In a world consumed by situationships and blurred relationship boundaries, creating space for the things that truly matter is crucial for your well-being. When you declutter, you strip away what’s not serving you, which allows more intentional, meaningful experiences to surface.

First, get honest about what “clutter” actually means to you. It’s not just about physical stuff. In modern dating and friendships, clutter shows up as toxic connections, situationships that never progress, ongoing drama in group chats, and routines that keep you stuck. Clarify what you want to keep in your life. Make a list. Are there relationships that subtly stress you out? Are there social habits or digital distractions that never make you feel better? Write them down.

Next, set boundaries, and honor them firmly. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for prioritizing your peace. If someone keeps you in a gray zone or places you at the center of their drama, it might be time to create some distance. This also includes friends who only reach out for gossip, exes who text you at midnight, or even your own inner habits—like doomscrolling late at night—that leave you feeling disconnected from yourself.

Now, give yourself permission to let go. Unfollow or mute accounts that don’t inspire you. Step back from group chats that only drain your energy. Donate clothes and objects that no longer reflect the version of yourself that you want to become. Say “no” to invitations that don’t excite you. Practice a digital detox so you can hear your own thoughts.

Decluttering isn’t about losing things or people. It’s about making room for what deeply resonates with you. Once you do this, you’ll find clarity and confidence—qualities essential for navigating modern situationships. Suddenly, you’ll feel lighter, both emotionally and mentally. Decision-making becomes easier because you know who you are and what you want.

If you’re tangled in messy dating situations, unclear friendships, and the emotional noise of modern life, know that you’re not alone. Sorting out your feelings and decisions is hard, especially when it feels like there are no clear rules. That’s where tools like notBf come in. It’s a hyper-personalised AI companion created for young women dealing with situationships, helping you process, reflect, and move forward with clarity. Sometimes, an outside perspective—or the right guidance—can be the difference between feeling stuck and stepping fully into your best self.

Declutter your world, inside and out, and notice how much better you start to feel.