How do I handle posting photos of us online?

Be honest with yourself about your feelings. Talk to your partner or the person you’re seeing before you make a move. Don’t post impulsively or out of pressure.

When you’re in a situationship, posting photos online isn’t as simple as it might seem. Social media has a way of transforming small gestures into big statements. Uploading that cute date selfie can say things you might not be ready to declare: "We’re together," or "This is official." But with situationships, you’re often in that unclear, undefined space—somewhere between friends and partners. So, how do you navigate this?

First take a moment to reflect on why you want to post. Are you feeling pressured because others post about their relationships? Are you hoping your post will provide clarity about where you stand? Or do you just want to share a good time with your friends? Getting to the truth of your motivation helps you make a choice that feels right rather than one driven by outside expectations.

The most important step is to communicate. Have a conversation with the other person before posting. Ask them if they’re comfortable being online together. You might find they want privacy, or maybe they don’t want mutual friends or family members to start asking questions. Remember, everyone has different boundaries about online visibility. Respecting those boundaries is a mark of maturity—and it avoids unnecessary drama.

There’s also the practical aspect: what message are you sending to your followers and to each other? In the blurry lines of a situationship, one person might read a lighthearted post as a big signal about exclusivity. It could trigger anxiety or confusion if you’re not both on the same page about your label or intentions.

Another thing to think about is your own need for validation. If you notice you’re craving likes and attention as proof of a connection, it may be time to check in with yourself. Social media has its perks, but posting photos should never be a substitute for clear, honest communication about your relationship status.

Before hitting "share," consider whether you’d be OK if other people (friends, family, or even exes) saw the photo. If that thought brings you anxiety or if you’re unsure about your relationship’s direction, perhaps it’s a sign to wait a little longer.

And if the other person wants to keep things offline, respect that—don’t take it personally. There are dozens of reasons why someone would want to keep photos private, and it’s not always a reflection of how they feel about you.

If you’re feeling tangled up in what to do next, know that you’re not alone. Situationships are tricky to navigate, especially in the age of Instagram and TikTok. This is exactly why tools like notBf exist—an AI companion designed for young women figuring out the nuances of modern dating and situationships. While it won’t decide for you, notBf helps bring clarity by offering hyper-personalized advice for your unique (sometimes messy) dating life.