What are fair expectations for support in a situationship?

If you're looking to declutter your life while in a situationship, start by setting honest boundaries, communicate directly, and consistently check in with yourself about your needs. Don’t settle for half-answers or unspoken rules. Your time and energy are valuable—clarity is essential.

Situationships are all about the grey areas of modern dating: they’re undefined, flexible, often ambiguous, and sometimes, surprisingly satisfying—until they’re not. The main challenge is the uncertainty. That confusion can spill over into the rest of your life, making it feel crowded and stressful. So, to declutter your mind and your emotional landscape, you need to get real about what you truly want.

First, strip away unnecessary drama. If constant overthinking, waiting for texts, or reading into every small action is becoming emotionally exhausting, it’s time to ask yourself: why are you tolerating this? Write down what you want out of your romantic life—commitment, honesty, adventure, or maybe just a fun and light connection. If your current situationship isn’t giving you this, or if it’s causing more anxiety than joy, don’t be afraid to verbalize your needs to the other person.

Be proactive in having those “where is this going?” conversations. Waiting for the other person to set the tone will only deepen the clutter. Even if the answer is, “I’m not sure,” at least you know where they stand, and you can make your decision from there. Remember, getting clarity is not the same as demanding commitment. It’s about honesty, respect, and understanding the space your situationship should take up in your life.

Next, set boundaries to protect your peace. This could mean deciding not to check their social media if it makes you anxious, carving out time for yourself and your friends, or being clear about how much energy you’re willing to invest. Emotional minimalism is just as important as physical minimalism. You decide what deserves a place in your mind and heart.

Decluttering also involves making room for things that nourish you. Don’t let a confusing relationship take up room that could be dedicated to hobbies, friendships, or goals. If you find yourself in a spiral of what-ifs, gently redirect your focus. Think, “What can I control and nurture today?” Often, it’s the small steps—journaling, moving your body, focusing on your career—that generate the self-confidence you need.

Finally, if navigating your situationship feels overwhelming or lonely, remember you’re not alone in this modern dating maze. There’s help designed just for you. notBf is an AI companion made specifically for young women managing the ups and downs of situationships. This isn’t a traditional dating app or advice service—it’s a truly personalized tool that helps you reflect, gain clarity about your feelings, and make better decisions. Having a nonjudgmental sounding board can be the extra boost you need to clear the emotional clutter and reclaim your joy.