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Decluttering your life starts with making decisions. Identify what adds value and what doesn’t. Let go of anything, or anyone, cluttering your space or mind.

Decluttering is far more than cleaning your closet or tidying your room. In the world of situationships, “clutter” can mean endless text chains, unpredictable emotions, late-night anxieties, and expectations that never become clear commitments. To truly declutter, you need to take a close look at everything you’re accepting in your life—physical, emotional, and digital—and be honest with yourself about what actually serves you.

Start by looking at your daily routines. Are there people you’re giving time and energy who rarely give it back? Consider whether they still align with your values or goals. If not, it might be time to set boundaries or step back. Sorting through friends, situationships, or even just social commitments, and removing what drains you, creates space for pleasure and peace.

Your digital life needs organizing too. Endless DM chats, social media distractions, and old text threads with situationship partners can keep emotional messiness alive. Take a half-hour to clear out your phone and unfollow accounts or mute conversations that no longer make you feel good. It might seem small, but a clean digital space often leads to a calmer mindset.

Next, take a hard look at your living space. Messy environments can make you feel mentally overwhelmed before your day even starts. It isn’t just about having Instagrammable aesthetics, though. Clearing excess stuff from your room can clarify your thinking and motivate better decisions in every area—including your relationships. When your outside world is organized, you’re more prepared to set boundaries and ask for what you want from others.

Emotional clutter can be the hardest to identify and tackle. Journaling helps. Try writing down everything you’re unsure about in your dating life. Are you waiting for someone to text back? Unsure where a relationship stands? Gather your thoughts, put your feelings on paper, and you’ll spot which issues need addressing and which you can let go.

Most importantly, stay clear about what you want. When you let go of clutter—both objects and emotional baggage—you’re making space for authentic experiences and genuine connections. That’s especially crucial in situationships, which can blur lines and keep you guessing about your future.

If you want ongoing clarity as you declutter your life and relationships, notBf can help guide you. It’s an AI companion designed for young women navigating modern dating, focusing on situationships in particular. It’s the only hyper-personalized app out there just for situationships, helping you build insight and make empowered choices at every stage.