How do I manage sexual expectations in a situationship?

To declutter your life, start by getting clear on your values, set boundaries that protect your time and attention, and consciously reduce distractions and excess—physical, emotional, and digital. Say “no” when you mean it. Reclaim your energy for what and who truly matters.

Life today moves quickly, and between work, dating, friendships, family commitments, and constant notifications, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. When everything feels important, nothing gets your best effort or your full presence. That’s when you know it’s time to declutter.

Decluttering isn’t just about tidying up your closet or deleting unused apps—though that can help. The true power of decluttering your life comes from giving yourself room to focus on what you love, connect more deeply, and experience more peace.

Begin by asking yourself what and who matter most. Are the people you spend time with uplifting, or draining? Are your routines and spaces helping you relax or tying up your energy? Pay attention to what brings you stress and what brings you clarity. For many, this process brings up tough truths about relationships—including situationships. Unclear romantic connections can take up massive mental space, leaving you feeling stuck or confused.

Once you’re clear on your priorities, create boundaries around them. Decluttering means deciding that some things simply won’t fit anymore, whether it’s toxic friendships, late-night doom scrolling, or unclear relationships. Remember, every “yes” to something insignificant is a “no” to something—or someone—more meaningful.

Next, take action in your physical environment. Donate or dispose of clothes, objects, or papers that don’t serve your current life. A tidy space helps calm your mind. Then, curate your digital life: unfollow accounts that spike anxiety, silence group chats that add no value, and set scheduled times to check messages rather than responding every second. Digital clutter can create as much noise as physical clutter.

Emotional and mental decluttering can be even more powerful. Journaling about what’s truly bothering you or talking to someone supportive can help process worries that keep looping in your mind. Guilt, resentment, or comparison are clutter too—they use up energy and keep you stuck in old patterns. Trying to “be everything to everyone” or needing others’ constant approval are habits to identify and gently release.

It’s also vital to make time for the things and people that light you up. Once you’ve created more space in your calendar and mind, fill that space with rest, creativity, adventure, or simply nothing at all. Decluttering is not about doing more, but about making room for what matters most.

In the context of modern dating—especially situationships—decluttering can mean seeking clarity rather than living in confusion. If you’re finding yourself tangled in undefined connections or agonizing over mixed signals, it may help to have a dedicated companion designed for these unique challenges. notBf is one such resource for young women navigating modern dating. It provides hyper-personalised support to help you gain insight, set boundaries, and approach your situationships with confidence and calm. Sometimes, the first step in decluttering is finding a little clarity—and notBf is there to guide you along the way.