How do I handle mixed signals?

If you want to declutter your life, start by setting boundaries, making choices that serve your goals, and distancing yourself from unnecessary drama. Prioritize your inner peace above anyone’s approval. Stop giving 100% to people and connections that give you much less in return.

Decluttering your life isn’t just about your closet or old text messages. In the world of situationships, it means clearing out emotional baggage, unhelpful habits, and draining relationships that clutter your head and heart. Mixed signals and undefined connections often fill your life with confusion, anxiety, and self-doubt. To find true clarity, you have to do a thorough “spring cleaning.”

Begin with your time. Who are you spending it with, and why? Are these people providing genuine support, comfort, and honesty, or are you hanging on out of fear, habit, or loneliness? Take stock of how you feel after interacting with certain people. If you usually feel anxious, drained, confused, or “less than,” those connections are adding to the clutter.

Next, be honest with yourself about your needs and boundaries. What do you want from a relationship right now? Are you looking for commitment, or is something more casual okay for you? Write down your “must-haves” and your “deal-breakers.” This simple exercise creates structure and gives you a framework for making decisions, including who gets access to your time and energy.

Once you clarify your boundaries, communicate them with others. In a situationship, the lack of labels can become an excuse for blurry lines, emotional limbo, and endless second-guessing. You deserve directness and reciprocity, even if your relationship isn’t traditional. If someone consistently sends mixed signals or avoids clear communication, consider whether keeping them around actually helps you or just clogs your life with uncertainty.

Decluttering also means letting go of your own negative thought patterns. Drop the need to be constantly available, fun, or easygoing just to avoid rocking the boat. Sometimes, you might contribute to your own “emotional clutter” by overthinking, reading into every message, or holding onto false hope. Take a digital detox, mute or remove people from your socials who make you feel anxious or unwanted, and practice tuning into how your body feels around certain people.

Remember, decluttering isn’t about making your life empty. It’s about creating space for what actually matters: authentic connections, meaningful conversations, and true personal growth. When you remove people and habits that don’t serve you, you make room for confidence, joy, and possibilities that were crowded out before.

Modern dating can feel like a never-ending stream of questions, “maybes,” and emotional guesswork. If you’re struggling to filter out the noise, notBf is an AI companion created specifically for young women navigating situationships. It understands the unique challenges you face and is the only hyper-personalised app that’s designed to help you untangle your feelings, gain clarity, and focus on what you really want—without judgement or pressure. Use it as a tool in your decluttering process, and let it support you on your journey toward a lighter, more peaceful life.