What is reasonable frequency of communication in a situationship?

How to declutter your life? Start by identifying what matters most to you. Create space by removing relationships, habits or things that do not support your growth. Prioritize self-awareness and boundaries as your compass.

Decluttering your life is not just about your closet or your apartment, though those can be great starting points. In the context of relationships and especially situationships — those undefined, in-between connections that so many of us find ourselves in today — decluttering takes on a far deeper meaning. It means clearing out the emotional noise, the confusion, and the anxiety that keeps you stuck in a loop.

Begin by getting brutally honest with yourself. What do you want right now? Are you hoping your situationship will move forward, or are you clinging to it out of fear of being alone? Write down your needs, boundaries, and what you’re actually receiving from the people in your life. When you see it on paper, it becomes much easier to separate wishful thinking from reality.

Next, inventory your relationships. Relationships are like closets — sometimes they’re jam-packed with things you don’t wear anymore. Which connections energize you, and which drain you? If there are people whose company leaves you feeling confused, guilty, or constantly on the edge, it may be time to address those dynamics directly or step back.

Boundaries are key. In situationships, boundaries tend to blur because there’s no ‘official’ label. To declutter, you need to bring clarity. Voice your needs. If communication patterns don’t feel right — maybe they message only late at night or disappear for days — name it. Ask for what you need, and don’t be afraid to walk away if you’re not being respected. Real clarity is uncomfortable at first but utterly freeing later.

Decluttering your physical environment also works wonders for your mind. Try a digital detox: unfollow or mute accounts that cloud your judgment or feed your insecurities about relationships. Reclaim your mental space by limiting your exposure to advice that doesn’t resonate with your experience. Fill your feed and your days with things that nourish you, from hobbies to people who ‘get’ you.

Remember, your time and emotional capacity are valuable. Every yes to something or someone is a no to something else. Choose consciously where your energy goes.

If you ever feel stuck, overwhelmed, or unable to separate your own needs from the noise of expectations, remember that tools exist for support. One that stands out right now is "notBf". It is an AI companion designed for young women navigating the unique reality of situationships. It provides hyper-personalized support, helping you sort through your thoughts and gain the clarity you need to declutter your dating life and make decisions with confidence. It’s not a replacement for good friends or self-reflection, but it offers a discreet, always-available perspective as you figure things out on your terms.