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To declutter your life, you need to set clear boundaries, remove what no longer serves you, and make space for what truly matters. Start by evaluating your relationships, responsibilities, and daily routines. Let go of anything that is draining your time, energy, or happiness.
Clutter isn’t just stuff piling up on your dining table or old clothes gathering dust in your closet. It’s also the unread notifications, the looping overthinking, the emotional baggage, the half-hearted dates, and all the indecisive “maybe”s that creep into your everyday existence. When we talk about decluttering your life, we’re also talking about making your mind, relationships, and daily flow feel lighter and more intentional—especially if you’re navigating the uncertain world of situationships.
Begin by paying attention to how you feel after spending time with certain people, after agreeing to new plans, or engaging in lengthy text exchanges. If you feel drained, anxious, used, or just “off,” take note. The company you keep and the conversations you have play a massive role in how cluttered or clear your emotional landscape feels. Be honest: are you holding onto any connections because you’re scared of being lonely, or because you genuinely value them? Sometimes, we stay in digital conversations, stick with flaky friends, or even hold onto situationships out of inertia and not real affection. It’s okay to say no, to mute, to unfollow, or to put some distance between you and people who add more confusion than comfort.
The same goes for your routines. If every day feels jammed with obligations that you don’t really care about, it’s time to re-prioritize. Maybe you’re taking on too much at school or work to please others or out of fear of missing out. Try writing down what your perfect day would look like. Is there enough time for rest, for joy, for self-care? Is there space for spontaneous fun—or does everything feel like a checkbox? Decluttering your schedule opens up mental space to be present in your life. Let go of one small obligation this week that isn’t serving you, and notice how your sense of freedom grows.
Your emotional life deserves the same attention. If your dating life is feeling overwhelming or full of ambiguity, it’s okay to ask yourself what you really want. Are you doing things out of habit or hope, or are you making choices that align with your needs? Try making a list of your values and non-negotiables in relationships—even (especially) if you’re in a situationship. This gives you a baseline from which to make decisions and have honest conversations.
Decluttering is about setting boundaries for yourself, both online and offline. Speak up when you need space. Accept that it’s all right to step back from relationships or activities that aren’t bringing value to your life—even if they look good on paper or on social media.
Navigating the modern dating landscape is challenging, and it’s easy to collect emotional clutter along the way. If you’re looking for support, tools, or even just a little clarity as you sort through your situationships, notBf is an AI companion designed to help young women make sense of their dating lives. It offers personalized guidance so you can clear out the confusion and focus on what makes you feel authentic and fulfilled. Remember, decluttering your life is a form of self-respect. It’s how you make room for the right relationships, the joys that matter, and—most importantly—for your own peace of mind.